WHAT’S your type? Warrior, Helper, Artist, Truth-Seeker – or Sheep?

Each of us has a default mode of engaging the world around us, a lens through which we see the people, places,and things with which we interact each day and which guides how we behave. Call it a stance, a way of being in relation to the world, which frames our interactions and gives them […]

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Difficult, Annoying People are Everywhere: Deal with it

A driver cuts you off on the highway without signaling. Your spouse makes a snippy comment about your eating habits over breakfast. An old friend behaves like a jerk, insulting you in front of friends at a party. A co-worker embarrasses you in a meeting with an under-handed remark about your last presentation. It seems […]

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How to Use Leverage to Create More Freedom

Archimedes famously boasted that, were he to have a lever long enough and a place to stand, he could move the Earth. A bit over-dramatic, perhaps, but he was (theoretically) correct – with a properly-placed lever, many seemingly-impossible tasks become not only possible but downright easy. In particular, the principle of leverage can have a […]

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Freedom Requires Sacrifice. It Also Requires Us To Help Others Achieve Freedom.

This July 4th, Americans celebrate their Independence Day, the day we formally declared our separation from England in 1776. We remember the enormous sacrifices required to turn that declaration into true freedom and to maintain that freedom over the last 242 years: countless conflicts, loss of life and treasure, separation from family and friends, misery […]

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Ask Yourself This Simple Question. Every. Single. Day.

My mother passed away last year at age 95 after a years-long physical decline and struggle with dementia. We had many conversations during that time, most of them simple and present, focused on who and what was immediately in front of us (her granddaughter, a chocolate brownie, the bright red cardinal flying by). As the […]

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You can’t spell “rumination” without “ruin”

It’s a well-known factoid that 60% to 70% of our daily thoughts (give or take) are negative (see, for example, a Psychology Today article on the topic). And upwards of 90% of those negative thoughts are just retreads from the past. So, we are generally repeating the same negative thoughts to ourselves over and over […]

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Positive Thinking: The Antidote to the Anti-Freedom

I didn’t laugh out loud when Tony asked me to write a guest post for “Declaring Freedom.”  I knew he was graciously offering a platform to a neighbor who’d had just enough success as a writer to declare writing their profession.  But I did allow myself an internal chuckle.  Because unlike Tony, I couldn’t be […]

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Take a Retreat to Boost Your Personal Freedom

For millennia, retreats have been used by sages, scientists, and saints to refresh and refocus, and have often been the occasion for profound personal transformation. The founder of Buddhism, Gotama Buddha, recommended his followers spend the 3 months of the rainy season in one place and focus on their meditation practice, called the Vassa. The […]

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